(total playing time 3:18)

Rick says:
Definitely in the more denial section I would say. It's where a relationship is over and you don't want it to be over and you're hoping something will change, magically change, something you'll say or something you'll do will suddenly make the relationship good again, and it never really works.� Once it's over, it's over....the key line from it I think is "it is what it is". - wmmx, Dayton, OH

Song Facts: This was the first single released from shock/denial/anger/acceptance. It also appears on Anthology (written in rock). The radio mix is on the Ltd. edition of s/d/a/a.

Footnotes - the background photo was taken in Toledo, OH on 6/19/04 by Renata Hearn during the performance of Will I?

According to US

My favorite version, so far, of this song is the one that music choice has on their website. Just Rick's voice and an acoustic guitar. Heaven...even though he does say "answers" on this version. I figure he had about a year to decide which way he wanted it to go and HE picked stories, so stories it shall be, damn it! This is a song that I liked the first time I heard it, but have grown to really love. "So I lied and said that I'm okay" and "I'm a mess but I can't tell you so". Wow. Some people wear their feelings on their sleeves, some people hide theirs at all cost. I'm pretty much the latter, so I totally identify with this. ..."looking for the one that was you"....wanting so bad for things to be the way they were. What I really find interesting is how it goes from "but you gave it away", to "but you gave her away". It's almost like he goes from blaming her in the beginning to blaming himself by the end. Somewhat accepting responsibility. Even though he's talking in third person, I see it as him telling himself that. So a bit of acceptance for the blame, but still the denial of not wanting to accept it's over.
"I broke my heart on the reef of your infidelity" - now that's poetry!
And Rick's right, "it is what it is" is a great hook! - rlh

I do think this song was a wise (safe?) choice for the first single. It's very easy to listen to, it's got very catchy lines, and it's not too much of a drastic change from his previous work. He needed to go for the easy hook (no pun intended!) to bring people back in. Is it my favorite song on the CD, no... but I do like it. My favorite line in this song is "I'm down here calling my hands and knees crawling", maybe it's just the image that it portrays, but I think most people, at one time or another, have been just that vulnerable in a relationship. And, how many times have I lied and said that I'm okay when in fact I was yelling  and screaming on the inside! - Charlotte P.

I love how this one starts `full force' and then slows down for that sexy voice to start up. Whew! This is one of my faves on the CD, but the only line that gets to me is "it is what it is"..reminds me of a not-so-memorable person from the past. LOL Anyway, this is almost a song I could have written for Rick�.Yeah, you may think I am nuts, but truthfully, it does. Seeing Rick live is something most people have done hundreds of times and for me 3 times in 25 years is what I cling to. "Will I ever see you again" ( I hope so!) "I lied and said I'm ok" ( No, I am not, I want more!!!) "I was standing here waiting, my hands and knees shaking" (yeah that was me about to meet Rick for the first, hopefully not last, time in my life at a sound check). No, I am not completely nuts! LOL This is a definite fave for me and it's so energetic, I could listen to it over and over. - Amy L.